So, uh, the end of May is our half-year mark--Hermann's and mine--and Hermann said I had to wait until we hit six months before I even attempted a proposal and you know how the sort-of one went during the Occupation. I guess what I'm trying to say, is, dude, would you think it's presumptuous of me to start, well, LOOKING for a ring? Or would it'd, actually, be bad if I didn't? I mean, do you think Hermann EXPECTS me to propose, do you think he PREFERS I didn't ...I don't want to disappoint him and I don't want to annoy him and ...
The trouble with that is, I'm not sure sometimes what's him, what's me, and what's me projecting/wishful thinking. I want to say he's fine with it, totally going to say yes without looking back but--
Look, I'm sorry to lay this on you, but the only other people I can conceivably ask are: A. Hermann himself B. Someone with the hots for Hermann C. A kid who will support without question and I don't want a yes-man. I mean I do, I want my spirits bolstered or whatever, but...
[Ah, that... that's a good point. Things you don't always consider about a constant psychic link: where does one person end and the other begin? Qubit thinks to himself for a moment.]
... Because he needs order. That's the kind of man he is. It's like you said - he probably has the same uncertainty going on. Consider, you tend to act on impulse (to put it kindly), and we know the Drift can amplify both of your emotions. My guess is, imposing a hard time limit is his way of preventing you both from making a kneejerk decision.
No, no, I get it, but I keep doing this. And before you or I know it, I'm going to have that ring bought and paid for and am going to be trying to get Hermann to put it on and I've got to do this on his terms, right? So...I answered my own question: waiting. Totally waiting. Yeah. Until he ...says something or does something to say he's actually ready. Because setting a hard time-limit doesn't mean he's ready really when the time runs out.
...Hey, sorry, we've got to stop meeting like this. How're you?
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Voice - may 1
Thoughts?
Help me, Q.B.1. you're my only hope.
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Well, my first thought is that, once again, you're vastly overestimating my expertise in that area.
[but, once again, he will try anyway. sighs]
Frankly, I think everyone's going to take a relationship at their own pace. You're the one who can read his mind, what do you think?
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Look, I'm sorry to lay this on you, but the only other people I can conceivably ask are:
A. Hermann himself
B. Someone with the hots for Hermann
C. A kid who will support without question and I don't want a yes-man. I mean I do, I want my spirits bolstered or whatever, but...
[whine] Why did he have to set RULES?
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... Because he needs order. That's the kind of man he is. It's like you said - he probably has the same uncertainty going on. Consider, you tend to act on impulse (to put it kindly), and we know the Drift can amplify both of your emotions. My guess is, imposing a hard time limit is his way of preventing you both from making a kneejerk decision.
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Promise me you'll talk me down from it when one of these days I tell you I have the ring and I'm going to do it.
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...Hey, sorry, we've got to stop meeting like this. How're you?